Podcast
071. Back to School mama
My trick to tackle Back to School transition... and it is simple. If you need the extra support during this time of year: Back to school jitters session! Talk to you soon.
070. Montessori mama
An episode on how and what I learnt about being a "Montessori mom". To book a free session, go back to our homepage and click on the booking link or click here : Book your free session!
069. Mama summer thoughts
Summer thoughts on Birthday parties and lifelong happiness.
068. How to be healthy by Alexis, 7 yo
Special episode and first for my daughter, who explains what she does to remain healthy as a child. We talk about many aspects of health and the episode ends with a cool tip from my 7 year old.
067. From one to two children
In this episode, we delve into the challenges faced when transitioning from parenting one child to managing two or more. We explore feelings of guilt over divided attention, the practical difficulties of outnumbered parents, and the emotional toll of balancing relationships with each child. Practical tips include prioritizing 1:1 time with each child, involving older siblings in caregiving, and creating special outings to strengthen bonds. The episode emphasizes the importance of fostering sibling relationships while navigating the complexities of parenthood without external support.
066. The worried Mama
In this episode, we discuss how worrying is natural, especially for moms who often carry the mental load of parenting. We explore two effective strategies for managing worries: acknowledging and letting go, and "worry batching." The latter involves scheduling dedicated time either weekly or nightly to address worries, helping to prevent stress and promote better emotional well-being. By implementing these techniques, moms can find ways to handle their worries more effectively and maintain mental peace amidst their responsibilities.
065. Music therapy with Mackenzie Costron
A very special episode in this conversation with Mackenzie Costron from Find your voice music therapy. We talk about everything musical regarding mom support, perinatal as well as babie's development. Enjoy !
064. Motherhood vs Matrescence
A short episode on the difference between motherhood and matrescence so we can use both terms as appropriate. Motherhood is more of a cultural aspect in which we raise our children and live as mothers. Matrescence is a personal development of your life as a mother and has many layers that are affected by this new role you have. Listen to this episode to know how to use these words as they apply to your mom life.
063. When my child is hitting
Adeline is discussing a common challenge many parents face: dealing with their child's aggressive behavior, such as hitting or biting. She emphasizes that these behaviors are often impulsive and not intentional acts of harm. She also highlights two main reasons behind such behavior: a lack of attention or connection from caregivers and possibly being exposed to physical handling or aggression from others. Our approach emphasizes understanding and addressing the root causes rather than reacting with punitive measures like hitting back or spanking. We stress the importance of using calm, controlled responses to these behaviors to avoid inadvertently reinforcing them with attention, even if it's negative. It's clear that Adeline advocates for adults using their own self-control and understanding to model appropriate responses and provide the necessary support and guidance for their children. Overall, this perspective encourages empathy, patience, and proactive communication with caregivers and other adults involved in the child's life to help navigate through this challenging phase of development.
062. Toy rotation
This episode addresses the common challenge parents face with managing an overwhelming number of toys scattered around the house. It introduces toy rotation as a solution to reduce clutter and stress. Toy rotation involves periodically swapping out toys, keeping only a select few available at any given time. This method is beneficial because having too many toys accessible can overwhelm children and hinder their ability to play effectively. Adeline explains that toy selection should be age-appropriate. For babies, fewer toys are needed, and they can continue to use the same toys in different ways as they grow. For toddlers and older children, a mix of six to eight toys, including both open-ended and closed-ended activities, is recommended. The organization and storage of toys are also crucial. Toys not in current rotation should be stored away using clear bins for easy identification. Ensuring that storage is inaccessible to children prevents messes. Toy rotation should be based on children's current developmental stages and interests rather than on a fixed schedule. It's important to remove toys that are no longer being used before introducing new ones. Encouraging children to participate in cleanup through fun methods, such as setting a timer with a song, can make the process more enjoyable. Accepting that sometimes helping children clean up is necessary and can be turned into a positive, shared activity. Regular decluttering is also recommended. Parents should give away, sell, or recycle toys that are broken or no longer used. Involving older children in the process respects their ownership of the toys. Adeline also addresses handling unwanted gifts. It suggests setting boundaries with family members regarding the types of toys allowed in the home and recommending that grandparents or other relatives keep certain toys at their place if they don’t fit within the parents' preferences or space constraints.
061. The Mama Body
In this heartfelt episode, we delve into the intimate story of the body's journey and the complex relationship between body and mind. This narrative explores the love-hate relationship many women, especially mothers, experience with their bodies during different stages of life, from adolescence to motherhood. Adeline experienced a loss of control over her body, struggled with morning sickness, unhealthy cravings, and significant weight gain. Coping with postpartum body changes, including stretch marks, c-section scars, and body image issues, was not easy. Shifting focus from trying to regain her pre-pregnancy body to embracing her current physical state became crucial. We emphasize the importance of honoring hormonal health and the body’s natural rhythms, adopting practices like intuitive eating and seasonal nutrition to nourish the body. Listeners are encouraged to appreciate their bodies for their strength and resilience. Highlighting the significance of gentle exercise, proper nutrition, and self-love is essential. Recognizing the shared experiences of aging and body changes fosters a supportive community. We conclude saying that the mama body is a trophy, something to be proud of.
060. Mama triggers and reactions
As moms, we often get triggered by our children’s behaviors, such as tantrums, meltdowns, or potty training challenges, which can evoke deep emotions like frustration and anger. These strong reactions may stem from unresolved childhood experiences where we replicate the harsh responses we received as children. Additionally, high stress levels, disorganization at home, or mental overload can exacerbate these triggers, making it harder to remain calm. To manage these triggers, it's important to recognize and address our inner child wounds. This involves reassuring ourselves that certain childhood behaviors are normal and allowing ourselves to heal from past negative experiences. Understanding the natural pace of child development and practicing patience is crucial, as helping too much can hinder a child's learning process. Preparing for the inevitable messiness of learning processes like self-feeding or potty training, both practically and emotionally, can also make a significant difference. One effective strategy for managing reactions is mental rehearsal. By visualizing challenging situations and practicing calming responses, we can train our emotional regulation and prepare for real-life scenarios. Regular self-care practices are essential for maintaining emotional balance and control, enabling us to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively. In conclusion, parenting requires preparation and emotional regulation. Just as athletes use mental rehearsal to enhance their performance, moms can use it to improve their responses to their children’s behaviors. Being gentle with ourselves, understanding our triggers, and practicing self-care are key steps in becoming the responsive and caring moms we aspire to be.
059. The Mama mental load
In today's episode, we're diving into the often overwhelming mental load of motherhood. Why does this burden seem to fall mainly on us, the moms? It often happens organically, sneaking up on us until it feels too heavy to bear. By then, we think it's too late to change, and we continue carrying the load. Let's explore this "Mama mental load," understand its roots, and discuss how to challenge it for the next generation. Key Points: Default Parent Role: Moms frequently become the default parent, taking on the bulk of responsibilities related to children, such as organizing food, toys, clothing, activities, and homework. This default status brings a significant mental load, which can be overwhelming. Episodes to Revisit: Check out my previous episodes on the default parent and co-parenting for more insights on managing and redistributing these responsibilities. Communication and Redistribution: Effective communication with your partner is crucial to redistribute household and parenting tasks. If the mental load is impacting your schedule and mental health, it’s essential to address and change this dynamic. Personal Experience: In my own family, we've worked on rebalancing the load. As both my partner and I work from home, we've found ways to share responsibilities more equally. When I leave the house, it highlights just how much I carry as a mom, underscoring the need for ongoing redistribution of tasks. Challenging Gender Norms: -Our patriarchal society imposes gender roles from a young age, with girls being steered towards domestic tasks and boys towards more active, "masculine" activities. -To counteract this, we must challenge these norms within our families. Strategies for Change: -Encourage both children, regardless of gender, to participate in a variety of activities, from cooking and baking to repairing and organizing. -Model a balanced approach by engaging in tasks traditionally assigned to the opposite gender (e.g., moms building things, dads cooking). Impact of Education: -Montessori education supports this balanced approach by teaching practical life skills to all children, regardless of gender. Lessons from Same-Sex Parenting: -Same-sex parents often experience fewer gender biases in task distribution, highlighting the impact of societal expectations on family dynamics. Letting Go and Trusting: -Sometimes moms feel they must do everything perfectly, preventing them from sharing tasks. -Trusting your partner and letting go of some control is essential for achieving equity in parenting responsibilities. Call to Action: -Reflect on your role in your family. Are you doing everything because it’s expected, or can you redistribute tasks based on interests and abilities? -Challenge societal norms and work towards a more balanced distribution of the mental load. By examining and addressing these issues, we can make family life more equitable and enjoyable for everyone. What do you think? Share your thoughts and experiences on this important topic in our private Ohmama chat or on instagram @ohmamaworld
058. The mama with no village
In this episode, we delve into the concept of the "mom with no village," a term encapsulating the experience of mothers raising children without immediate physical support from family or friends. Traditionally, a mother would receive assistance from her village, consisting of family members, during the transition into motherhood. However, modern circumstances often lead to mothers lacking this support system due to geographical distance or other reasons. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by mothers without a village, including feelings of isolation, exhaustion, and the inability to ask for help. Even when surrounded by family, some mothers may find themselves disconnected and unsupported, leading to difficult decisions like moving away from immediate support structures for the sake of mental health. The episode emphasizes the importance of identifying and meeting the needs of new mothers beyond the postpartum period, as support requirements extend into different stages of parenting. While technology provides some virtual support, the lack of physical assistance can still be daunting. The host shares personal experiences and research findings to offer insights into coping strategies and finding a sense of community. The episode concludes with a message of solidarity and encouragement for mothers navigating the challenges of parenthood without a traditional support network, offering reassurance that they are not alone and can find solutions that work for them.
057. The c-section mama
In today's episode, we delve into the often overlooked topic of Cesarean section (C-section) births, shedding light on the experiences and emotions that surround them. While childbirth is commonly viewed as a natural and beautiful process, the reality is that many mothers undergo C-sections, either by choice or necessity, and may face feelings of guilt or shame as a result of societal judgment. Acknowledging the value of natural birth, we emphasize the importance of supporting women in their birthing choices while recognizing that not all births go as planned. Personal experiences shape perspectives, and prior to my own C-section, I may not have fully understood the complexities involved. However, my journey has taught me the significance of preparation and the need for comprehensive birth plans that encompass various scenarios. Addressing common concerns surrounding C-sections, such as potential impacts on the baby's immune system and the risks associated with surgery, we acknowledge the individual circumstances that may necessitate this birthing method. Despite these concerns, personal experiences vary, and it's essential not to generalize outcomes based on birthing methods. We advocate for informed decision-making, emphasizing the importance of empowering mothers with knowledge and supporting their choices throughout the birthing process. By fostering a non-judgmental environment and prioritizing compassionate care, we aim to mitigate the potential for birth-related trauma and ensure that all mothers feel respected and supported on their journey to motherhood. Ultimately, our goal is to encourage open dialogue and exchange of experiences, as it is through shared stories and mutual understanding that we can strive to improve maternal care and support for all mothers.
056. I turned out fine
In this short solo episode,Adeline delves into a reflection that has been on her mind for some time. She explores the common phrase "I turned out fine" often used when reflecting on childhood experiences or parenting styles. What she has noticed is that beneath this statement lies a layer of shame and guilt, pervasive in conversations about parenting. She identifies two main streams of parenting mindset: one where parents strive for perfection, always feeling like they're not doing enough, and another where parents, feeling lost or guilty, justify their past actions with the phrase "they turned out fine." Through the story of a boy who believes he "turned out fine" despite experiencing physical discipline, Adeline highlights the hidden struggles and long-term effects that such parenting approaches can have, including mental health issues. She advocates for a shift away from aiming for perfection and instead toward doing our best with what we have. She emphasizes the importance of making decisions in the best interest of our children, rather than simply hoping they "turn out fine." Respectful mothering, as explained in a previous episode, involves showing respect for both the child and the mother, aligning behaviors with values to create thriving families. While it's not easy and may not always look perfect, striving for more than just "fine" is essential. Together, let's aim for thriving.
055. Potty training or toilet learning ?
In this episode, we delve into the phase of toddlerhood that can be stressful for many families: toilet learning. We explore why the term "potty training" doesn't align with respectful parenting, opting instead for "toilet learning." By following Montessori principles, we introduce the concept early, integrating the potty into daily routines even when children are babies. Recognizing their cues and readiness, usually between 12 to 24 months, we transition to underwear gradually. We discuss the emotional preparation required for both children and adults, emphasizing patience and understanding. Accidents are viewed as part of the learning process, fostering emotional resilience. While the timing varies for each child, parental readiness is crucial. We address common challenges such as constipation and gender stereotypes, advocating for individualized approaches aligned with family values. Listeners are encouraged to consider their parenting philosophy and seek support if needed. Ultimately, the goal is to empower children in their toilet learning journey while nurturing a respectful and supportive environment.
054. Motherhood through IVF
After an introduction of her guest and a definition of IVF, Adeline asks questions about Gursharn's journey with IVF and pregnancy and they bring subjects such as IVF tests, endometriosis and ectopic pregnancy. Both mothers talk about trauma in this motherhood journey and Gursharn talks about conceiving through IVF, (dis)respect from medical doctor, emotional challenges, loss and also her partner's trauma. They also talk about entrance into motherhood through the IVF process and they dig into subjects such as The undoing of who you are, relationship/connection with baby, lack of village, cultural barriers and identity shift. What the journey has taught Gursharn: the surrendering, trust in the process, parenting, regression, discomfort of what being a mother might be for one person.
053. Happy anniversary UMS podcast
In Episode 53 of the "Understanding Mother Stories" podcast, Adeline celebrates its one-year anniversary. Reflecting on the past year, she shares personal experiences as a mother and educator, highlighting the ongoing journey of growth and learning. Despite facing challenges like economic hardships and relocation,,she finds strength and support. The podcast continues to inspire and support mothers globally, addressing their concerns and providing a platform for sharing stories. Emphasizing the importance of maternal happiness in family well-being, Adeline expresses gratitude to the listeners for their support and looks forward to the upcoming year, promising to delve deeper into topics related to child development and maternal emotions.
052. Why do children lie?
In this episode, Adeline explores the topic of lying in children, particularly focusing on toddlers and older children. She begins by distinguishing between lies and fibs, emphasizing that young children often blur the line between reality and imagination, lacking the intentional manipulation associated with lying. She also discusses various reasons why children might fib, including embarrassment, self-preservation, and testing boundaries. She highlights the importance of responding to fibs with compassion and understanding, rather than reacting with anger or punishment, as harsh reactions can exacerbate the behavior. Adeline suggests engaging in open discussions with children about their feelings and providing opportunities for them to practice honesty. Additionally, she acknowledges the role of adults in modeling truthful behavior for children, underscoring the importance of maintaining honesty in interactions. Despite the challenges of remaining truthful, she encourages listeners to prioritize honesty, as it fosters inner harmony and healthier relationships.
051. What is it with meditation?
In this episode, Adeline shares her personal journey with meditation and emphasizes its profound impact on her life, particularly in managing anxiety and overwhelming thoughts. She challenges common misconceptions about meditation, highlighting its role in fostering acceptance, understanding, and inner freedom rather than suppressing thoughts. She recounts her teenage struggles with anxiety and how a doctor's mindfulness technique helped her regain control. She delves into her introduction to meditation underscoring its transformative effects during stressful periods. Adeline encourages listeners to explore meditation, dispelling the notion that it requires sitting quietly for extended periods. Instead, she advocates for adaptable, guided practices tailored to individual needs. After reflecting on over a decade of meditation, she shares her ability to now meditate independently and finally offers to engage with listeners interested in exploring meditation, emphasizing its relevance beyond parenting.
050. Second plane child (part2)
In this episode, Adeline explores the development of a child's sense of justice and understanding of right and wrong during the second plane of development, spanning ages 6 to 12. This phase brings about significant cognitive and social changes, leading children to question rules, test boundaries, and seek deeper understanding. Adeline explains how parents and caregivers must exercise patience and reframe their approach to discipline, understanding that punishments may not effectively address the child's quest for justice since fairness and consistency in discipline are paramount to maintaining a harmonious relationship with the child. Adeline also brings how contribution and responsibility can empower children to take ownership of their responsibilities and contribute meaningfully. She shares a personal example of her daughter taking initiative into the home. The episode concludes with understanding and supporting the second plane child's sense of justice and contribution is essential for their emotional and cognitive development. Parents are encouraged to embrace open communication, logical consequences, and opportunities for children to take on responsibilities within the family unit.
049. Second plane child (part 1)
In this episode, Adeline delves into the concept of the second plane of development in children, according to Maria Montessori's theory. This phase, spanning from ages 6 to 12, is characterized by significant cognitive, emotional, and social changes, often overlooked compared to the more eventful first and third planes. Introduction to the Second Plane: Unlike the tumultuous stages of infancy and adolescence, childhood in the second plane may appear relatively calm but holds its own complexities. Physical Development: This stage consolidates physical features, signaling the child's progression toward maturity. Cognitive Changes: The child's mind shifts toward abstract thinking, questioning, and exploring deeper concepts. Learning Preferences: While sensorial experiences are still crucial, the child's learning style shifts toward more abstract and conceptual understanding. Social Development: Children in the second plane become more socially inclined, seeking interactions with peers and adults. Adeline explains what all this means for parental involvement in their child’s life. This episode can help you understand the nuances of the second plane child which allows parents to provide appropriate support and guidance during this critical phase of development. By acknowledging and embracing the unique characteristics of the second plane child, parents can nurture their child's growth and prepare them for the journey ahead into adolescence and adulthood.
048. Mom lessons from Michelle Obama
In this episode, Adeline shares two valuable lessons she learned from Michelle Obama's book, "Becoming," focusing on motherhood and parental influence. Lesson 1: Adeline emphasizes the importance of reliability and emotional shelter in parenting. Lesson 2: She discusses how Michelle Obama's book illustrates balancing parental responsibility with moments of joy and spontaneity. Adeline encourages listeners to explore Michelle Obama's book for insightful perspectives on motherhood, resilience, and personal growth.
047. Your partner is not the help
The episode addresses the common issue of one parent, often the mother, becoming the default parent in the family, responsible for most parenting duties and household chores. Adeline emphasizes the importance of understanding the different backgrounds and experiences that shape each partner's parenting approach and encourages non-judgmental consideration of these differences. Key Points: - Understanding Differences for both parents: Adeline also encourages empathy and open communication to bridge potential gaps in understanding. - Grieving the Perfect Partner: Acknowledging the need to let go of unrealistic expectations of a partner who can fulfill every need effortlessly. - Open Communication: Emphasizes the necessity of regular and uninterrupted communication between partners regarding parenting roles, responsibilities, and household tasks. - Valuing the Default Parent's Contribution: Adeline challenges the notion that financial contribution is the sole measure of a partner's value, emphasizing the significant role of the default parent in maintaining the family's well-being and functioning. - Embracing Partnership: Shifts the perspective from viewing the non-default parent as "help" to recognizing them as part of a supportive partnership. Overall, the episode advocates for a shift towards equitable partnership and mutual support in parenting, emphasizing the value of clear communication, understanding, and shared responsibility in building a harmonious family dynamic.
046. 5 minutes before pick-up
The episode emphasizes the importance of taking a brief pause, referred to as the "5-minute reset," before reuniting with your child after being apart. Rather than rushing from work or other responsibilities directly to pick up your child, Adeline suggests taking a few minutes to transition and regulate emotions. This intentional pause allows both parent and child to reset and approach the reunion with a positive mindset. Benefits of the 5-Minute Reset: Transition Time, Emotional Regulation, Quality Interaction: Ensures that the parent is mentally present and emotionally available to engage with their child in a meaningful way, fostering a positive connection and bonding experience. Personal Well-Being: Prioritizes the parent's well-being by providing a brief moment of self-care and mindfulness, promoting a sense of calm and balance before engaging with their child. Adeline offers suggestions for the 5-Minute Reset including a meditation technique. Overall, the episode underscores the significance of prioritizing emotional well-being and creating intentional moments of connection with your child through the 5-minute reset practice. By taking this time for self-care and emotional regulation, parents can enhance the quality of their interactions with their children and nurture a supportive and loving relationship.
045. What and who defines you ?
Exploring Identity: The episode delves into the concept of self-identity and how external labels or perceptions can shape one's self-image. It questions how individuals define themselves and the impact of these definitions on their behavior and mindset. Shifting Perspectives: Adeline emphasizes the need to challenge and redefine ingrained labels or perceptions that may not align with one's desired identity. It encourages introspection and the identification of areas for personal growth and change. Practical Steps: The episode offers practical advice for breaking free from limiting self-definitions, including implementing organizational strategies and decluttering one's life. It highlights the importance of aligning daily habits with the desired self-image. Parenting Reflections: The narrative raises awareness about the influence of parental labeling on children's self-perception and behavior. It underscores the importance of using empowering language and refraining from limiting labels that may hinder children's potential. Empowerment Through Self-Definition: Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to take ownership of their identities and pursue personal growth with intentionality. It emphasizes the transformative power of self-awareness and the ability to redefine oneself according to one's aspirations and values.
044. How to have self-compassion
The episode explores Adeline’s personal journey toward practicing self-compassion, particularly in the realm of motherhood. It acknowledges the common challenge of reacting impulsively instead of responding thoughtfully to parenting difficulties and emphasizes the importance of developing self-compassion to navigate these situations effectively. The host delineates three key components of self-compassion: - Kindness Towards Self: Encourages listeners to examine their inner dialogue and replace self-criticism with kindness and self-acceptance. - Shared Humanity: Reminds listeners that experiencing struggles and challenges is a universal aspect of the human condition, fostering a sense of connection and empathy. - Mindfulness: Advocates for being present in the moment and practicing gratitude to counteract negative thoughts and worries. Adeline also offers actionable advice for integrating self-compassion into daily life. Adeline highlights the significance of self-compassion in parenting, emphasizing that caring for oneself enables better care for others, including children. Reflects on how cultivating self-compassion has positively impacted her approach to motherhood and teaching. She encourages listeners to embark on their own journey toward self-compassion, recognizing its transformative potential in fostering resilience, kindness, and inner peace. Adeline reminds parents that nurturing kindness within themselves creates a more nurturing and compassionate environment for their children.
043. Do you believe you're a good person?
In this episode, Adeline delves into the concept of goodness, both within oneself and in others, drawing parallels between personal experiences and the challenges of motherhood. Reflecting on various situations where she has been affected by others' decisions, she emphasizes two key insights: the importance of focusing on one's own response to challenges and the belief that everyone possesses inherent goodness. She encourages mothers to recognize their own goodness even in moments of difficulty or imperfection. She stresses that acknowledging one's goodness doesn't negate the need for growth or improvement but serves as a foundation for self-compassion and resilience. Furthermore, Adeline extends this perspective to interactions with others, advocating for empathy and understanding even when faced with hurtful actions or decisions. While acknowledging the validity of emotions like anger and sadness, she emphasizes the importance of forgiveness and recognizing the inherent goodness in everyone. The episode concludes with a reminder that children, despite their challenging behaviors, are inherently good and driven by a desire to learn and grow. By recognizing this, parents can approach their parenting journey with greater compassion and understanding.
042. What is my legacy?
In this introspective episode, Adeline reflects on the purpose of her podcast and delves into the concept of legacy, particularly in the context of parenting. She acknowledges that while material possessions and tangible gifts are part of leaving a legacy, the more profound impact lies in the memories, values, and lessons passed down to children. The host contemplates what her children will remember of her when she's no longer physically present in their lives, whether due to her absence or their transition into adulthood. Drawing on personal experiences with her own grandparents, she emphasizes the significance of emotional connections and everyday moments over material possessions. Reflecting on the legacies of renowned figures and inventors, the host recognizes that while their achievements are noteworthy, their personal happiness and relationships may have been overshadowed. She emphasizes the importance of day-to-day interactions, smiles, expressions of love, and shared experiences in shaping a meaningful legacy. Ultimately, the episode serves as a reminder for both her and listeners to prioritize creating a life that reflects their values and leaves a positive impact on their children and those around them. It encourages introspection and mindfulness in everyday interactions, highlighting the profound influence of personal demeanor and relationships on the legacy we leave behind.
041. Mom, I'm bored !
In this episode, Adeline explores the common scenario of children saying "Mom, I'm bored!" and provides insights from both a Montessori educator's perspective and her own experience as a mother. She identifies two main reasons why children express boredom: 1- Seeking connection 2- Overstimulation and dependency on external entertainment Adeline highlights the importance of allowing children to experience boredom, as it fosters relaxation, observation, and creativity. When children are left to their own devices, they often engage in imaginative play and develop problem-solving skills. Sharing personal anecdotes, she discusses how she navigates her daughter's expressions of boredom by assessing whether it stems from a need for connection or an opportunity for independent play. She encourages parents to trust in their child's ability to find activities they enjoy and suggests involving children in daily tasks or setting aside dedicated time for quality interaction. Ultimately, the episode emphasizes the balance between fostering attachment and encouraging independence, providing practical tips for parents to support their child's development in both areas.
040. Manifesting... for our parenting
In this episode, Adeline delves into the concept of manifestation, reflecting on her personal journey and the various approaches people take to manifesting their desires. She outlines three main streams of manifestation: -The simplistic belief that wishing, thinking, and believing in something will make it manifest, often associated with spiritual beliefs. -The goal-oriented approach where manifestation involves setting clear goals, creating vision boards, and diligently working towards achieving them. -The balanced approach that combines belief in manifestation with taking deliberate actions towards one's goals, acknowledging the role of both intention and effort. Adeline emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's agency in shaping their life, especially in the context of motherhood where challenges may lead to feelings of victimhood and negativity. While acknowledging the difficulties of making changes and manifesting desires, she encourages listeners to cultivate hope and positivity, not only for themselves but also for their children. Sharing personal examples of manifestations from her own life, Adeline demonstrates how a combination of belief, intention, and action can lead to desired outcomes. Ultimately, the message is one of empowerment and encouragement, urging listeners to believe in the possibility of realizing their dreams and taking proactive steps towards manifesting them.
039. What if ...?
In this episode, Adeline acknowledges the pressure many people feel to set big goals and make significant changes at the start of a new year or season. However, she emphasizes that it's okay not to feel inspired to do so, especially during the winter season. She reminds listeners that winter is a time for rest, introspection, and slowing down. Instead of forcing oneself to set ambitious goals, she suggests setting intentions to embrace the winter season, allowing oneself to let go, slow down, and focus on self-care. Ultimately, the message is to honor one's feelings and needs in the present moment, whether it involves embracing the stillness of winter or preparing for future endeavors when the time feels right.
038. Are you the main character of your life?
In this episode, Adeline encourages mothers to reflect on whether they see themselves as the main character in their own lives or if they feel controlled by external circumstances. Many people fall into a victim mindset, reacting impulsively to challenges rather than responding intentionally. She distinguishes between reacting, which is instinctual and quick, and responding, which is deliberate and conscious. By training the mind and practicing self-care, individuals can cultivate the ability to respond rather than react to life's challenges. Listeners are invited to envision themselves as the main character in their life's movie, considering how they want the storyline to unfold and whether their choices align with their desires. By taking control of their narrative, individuals can empower themselves to navigate life with intention and agency. The episode concludes with an affirmation you need to repeat to embrace your role as the protagonist in your own story.
037. Do you make resolutions?
In this episode, Adeline explores the tradition of making New Year's resolutions, tracing its origins back to the Babylonians. While setting resolutions can be a positive way to initiate change and goal-setting, many people struggle to maintain them beyond the initial motivation of the new year. Adeline highlights the difference between setting resolutions on a whim versus setting intentional intentions or goals and talks about how those who successfully maintain their resolutions are typically more intentional in their approach. Using the example of postpartum weight loss, Adeline emphasizes the importance of setting intentions that focus on how one wants to feel rather than specific outcomes. By setting intentional goals and breaking them down into manageable steps, individuals can increase their chances of success. Furthermore, Adeline encourages listeners to set intentions whenever they feel ready, rather than waiting for January 1st. Ultimately, the key to success lies in being intentional and thoughtful about the changes one wants to make in their life.
036. What season do you actually live in?
In this episode, Adeline reflects on the concept of aligning one's life and routine with the changing seasons, drawing inspiration from the natural world. She emphasizes that humans, like nature, experience shifts in energy and mood throughout the year, influenced by factors such as sunlight, temperature, and daylight duration. Acknowledging the societal shift away from living in harmony with nature due to industrialization and standardized schedules, Adeline encourages listeners to reconsider their routines and embrace seasonal changes. She highlights the importance of honoring one's natural circadian rhythm and adjusting sleep schedules to accommodate the darker, colder months. Furthermore, Adeline suggests adopting seasonal eating habits, emphasizing the benefits of consuming foods that are locally and seasonally available. By aligning with nature's rhythms, she believes individuals can experience greater happiness and well-being. Overall, the episode encourages mothers to reconnect with nature and make conscious choices to live in harmony with the natural world, thereby enhancing their overall quality of life.
035. Co-existing with your child
In this episode, Adeline addresses the challenges faced by mothers who work from home or are stay-at-home parents while caring for their children. Drawing from personal experience, she emphasizes the importance of flexibility and understanding in managing daily tasks alongside childcare responsibilities. She also acknowledges the difficulty of balancing work and childcare but offers practical strategies to coexist harmoniously. Additionally, Adeline highlights the significance of maintaining a strong connection with children, even while juggling multiple responsibilities. She encourages parents to prioritize presence and emphasizes the value of physical and verbal interaction with children throughout the day. Furthermore, she provides insights into managing the needs of babies and toddlers, emphasizing the importance of short, focused periods of independent play. Overall, the episode offers reassurance and practical tips for mothers navigating the complexities of balancing work and childcare at home.
034. What do I do about toys?
In this episode, Adeline shares a story about a mother who felt overwhelmed by the influx of toys her children received during the holidays. The mother's feelings of resentment stemmed from the realization that, while generous, the gifts added to her responsibility of cleaning and organizing. To address this issue, Adeline advises parents to observe their children's interactions with the toys over the first few days after receiving them. Through this observation, parents can make informed decisions about what to keep, donate, or re-gift. Additionally, Adeline discusses the importance of toy rotation to prevent overwhelming children with too many choices. To avoid future toy-related stress, she also recommends setting clear expectations with family members about gift-giving practices. Ultimately, the goal is to create a holiday experience that aligns with the family's values and minimizes stress for both parents and children. By being proactive and assertive about their preferences, parents can ensure a more enjoyable holiday season for everyone involved.
033. Holidays and children
In this episode, Adeline delves into the complexities of managing children during the holiday season, drawing from personal experiences as a mother and a teacher. She emphasizes the importance of parents managing their own stress and expectations to better support their children during potentially overwhelming holiday events. She discusses the need for parents to anticipate and prepare for potential challenges their children may face during gatherings. She suggests creating a plan with a partner to address these situations effectively, ensuring that both adults are calm and capable of supporting their children. Furthermore, the episode highlights the significance of keeping expectations realistic and focusing on simple, family-centered celebrations. Adeline encourages parents to prioritize their own family unit over external expectations and to confidently assert their parenting choices when faced with criticism. Practical strategies for handling children during holiday gatherings are offered and Adeline concludes by offering affirmations and support to listeners, inviting them to reach out for additional assistance during the holiday season like her program called Mama Holiday 911
032. Having another child...
In this special episode, Adeline addresses a common feeling experienced by many mothers: grief when expecting a second child or adjusting to life as a family of four or more. Drawing from personal experience, she reflects on the challenges of transitioning from focusing solely on the firstborn to accommodating the needs of a growing family. She shares the initial struggles faced during pregnancy, feeling unable to provide the same level of attention to the first child. This shift in dynamics leads to feelings of guilt and shame, as she grapples with the changes in the mother-child relationship. However, the episode also highlights the beauty and growth that come with these changes. Despite the initial challenges, Adeline and her family adapt and find ways to nurture their relationships in new and meaningful ways. Special moments are created, and the bond between siblings blossoms, bringing unexpected joy and fulfillment. Ultimately, Adeline emphasizes that while grief is a natural part of change, it also opens the door to growth and transformation. Through understanding, patience, and adaptation, families can navigate these transitions and emerge stronger and more connected than before.
031. How often do you laugh and let loose?
In this episode, Adeline shares a personal experience about realizing the importance of laughter and releasing tension in times of stress. Reflecting on the mind-body connection, she discusses the significance of recognizing physical manifestations of stress and somatic work. Listeners are encouraged to pause and assess their body's tension levels and a simple breathing exercise is provided as a way to release tension and connect the mind and body. Furthermore, Adeline advocates for physical movement as a means of releasing tension, emphasizing the importance of letting go and allowing the body to express itself freely, much like children do.
030. Beauty, magic and peace
In this episode, Adeline reflects on the overwhelming nature of life's challenges and the desire to find beauty, magic, and peace, especially as the end of the year approaches. Acknowledging the importance of expressing feelings, she also questions the tendency to create extensive to-do lists during the holiday season, leading to unnecessary stress. Encouraging listeners to prioritize their own desires and well-being, she suggests making a list of personal preferences and delegating tasks when possible. The importance of simplifying and focusing on quality over quantity is emphasized, along with the need to appreciate life's simple pleasures. Sharing personal intentions for the season, Adeline encourages listeners to reflect on their own intentions for finding peace and reducing overwhelm during the holidays and beyond.
029. Do you know your worth?
In this episode, Adeline explores the distinctions between self-esteem and self-worth, which are often used interchangeably but have subtle differences in psychology. Adeline discusses how comparing oneself to others can affect self-worth, even if self-esteem remains intact. The episode highlights the importance of building self-esteem in children through meaningful support rather than constant praise. Additionally, Adeline shares personal reflections on how others' perceptions can sometimes shake one's self-worth, emphasizing the need to maintain confidence and resilience in the face of criticism or questioning. Ultimately, she encourages listeners to recognize their own worth based on personal values and experiences, rather than seeking validation from others. By understanding and embracing their self-worth, individuals can better support their children in developing a healthy sense of worthiness and confidence.
028. Do “backward” shoes feel wrong ?
In this episode, Adeline shares a heartwarming story about a father whose daughter attended their Montessori program. The father had a common concern shared by many parents - seeing their child wearing shoes on the wrong feet. However, she explains why, in Montessori education, allowing children to put their shoes on backwards is encouraged. She clarifies that this advice applies to children wearing regular shoes. In most cases, children wearing regular shoes can safely put them on backwards without discomfort or harm. She emphasizes the importance of fostering independence and allowing children to take pride in their accomplishments, even if it means their shoes are on the wrong feet. Adeline explains that children are sensitive beings who will express discomfort if their shoes are truly uncomfortable. She advocates for trusting the child's learning process and resisting the urge to intervene unnecessarily. Just as children learn through challenges, they also learn through experiences like putting on shoes. Ultimately, Adeline encourages parents to trust the child's learning process and resist the temptation to correct them, by doing so, parents can support their child's independence and self-confidence as they navigate the learning journey.
027. Dealing with change
In this episode, Adeline reflects on the transformative nature of parenthood and the broader concept of change in life. The discussion is sparked by a conversation with a friend about cultural differences in acknowledging and embracing the changes that come with motherhood. Adeline challenges the notion that motherhood doesn't change anything, emphasizing that such sentiments are often influenced by cultural norms and the stigma surrounding vulnerability. She suggests that in some cultures, admitting to change and vulnerability may be perceived as unstable or shameful, leading parents to suppress their feelings and experiences. Furthermore, she explores the universal truth that any significant life change, whether it's becoming a parent, changing jobs, or moving to a new place, inevitably alters one's routine, relationships, and sense of self. She stresses the importance of acknowledging and embracing these changes, recognizing that discomfort and vulnerability are natural parts of the growth process. The episode concludes with a reminder that navigating change requires both acknowledgment and action, as well as the understanding that discomfort can ultimately lead to personal growth and transformation.
026. A personal heartfelt episode
In this episode, Adeline shares a deeply personal reflection inspired by a recent conversation with a friend. Initially hesitant to delve into the complexities of parenting, Adeline was encouraged by their friend to explore the underlying reasons why parenting can be challenging. The episode touches on her empathy for others, particularly children and parents, drawing from over two decades of experience as a teacher and a mother. she acknowledges the emotional toll of witnessing others' struggles and emphasizes the importance of empathy in understanding the challenges of parenting. Furthermore, the episode delves into the experience of parenting neurodivergent children and caring for neurodivergent individuals within the family. Drawing from personal experience with a neurodivergent spouse and family members, Adeline sheds light on the unique difficulties faced by neurodiverse individuals in navigating societal expectations and educational systems. She shares insights into her husband's journey as a neurodivergent individual and highlights the need for greater understanding and support for neurodiverse parents and children. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, the episode offers a glimpse into the complexities of parenting and the importance of empathy and awareness in supporting diverse families. Ultimately, the episode serves as a heartfelt message of understanding and solidarity for those who feel different, reminding listeners of the power of empathy and compassion in building a supportive community.
025. Parenting is hard
In this episode, Adeline reflects on the notion that parenting is hard because one wants to be a good parent, this was sparked by a reel on Instagram. She explores the complexity behind this statement and engages in a conversation with a friend to delve deeper into the challenges of parenting. Adeline challenges the use of the word "good" in relation to parenting, highlighting its subjective nature and potential to induce guilt and self-doubt in mothers. Instead, she encourages exploring alternative ways to describe the qualities of effective parenting. Furthermore, the episode explores the inherent difficulties of parenting, including the emotional and psychological toll of caring for developing human beings who often lack emotional control. Adeline emphasizes the additional challenges faced by parents who do not want to replicate their own upbringing, diving into the unknown of parenting without a clear sense of self. The episode also acknowledges the unique challenges faced by mothers and default parents, who juggle parenting responsibilities alongside other life demands. Additionally, Adeline recognizes the particular difficulties experienced by parents of neurodivergent children, who navigate additional layers of misunderstood challenges. Ultimately, the episode acknowledges the inherent difficulty of parenting while recognizing the love and care that parents pour into their roles, regardless of the level of challenge they face.
024. Did you get prenatal care ?
In this episode, Adeline shares the story of a mother who, despite meticulous preparation for her baby's arrival, found herself overwhelmed and unsupported during the postpartum period. The mother had focused on birth preparation and purchasing baby items but received little guidance or support for the emotional and psychological transition into motherhood, known as matrescence. Adeline highlights the societal pressure on mothers to maintain their pre-motherhood lifestyles and the lack of awareness and support for matrescence. The mother's experience reflects a common narrative of mothers feeling unprepared and unsupported during the transition into motherhood. Adeline introduces the Antenatal Reflections course, designed to help expectant mothers reflect on their identities, support systems, and emotional needs as they prepare for motherhood. Additionally, she discusses cultural practices that prioritize the care and support of new mothers during the postpartum period. The episode highlights the need for comprehensive prenatal care that prioritizes the emotional and psychological well-being of mothers, ultimately benefiting both mothers and their children.
023. My child is bossy
In this episode, Adeline discusses a common developmental phase observed in children, often around the age of 4, known as the "I am the boss, I am the chef" phase. During this phase, children assert their desire to be in charge and enjoy directing others. This behavior is normal as children explore their power and boundaries in their environment. Adeline emphasizes that this phase is a part of children's development and should be normalized. However, if parents are concerned about the duration or impact of this phase, they can consider a few strategies to support their child. Firstly, parents can assess if the child feels powerless in other areas of their life and provide opportunities for them to exert control in safe and appropriate ways. Additionally, parents can empower their child by giving them more responsibilities and decision-making power.
022. I am (good) enough
In this episode, Adeline addresses the feeling of not being good enough, which can stem from childhood experiences, high self-expectations, or fear of failure. Adeline encourages listeners to recognize their worth and capabilities, acknowledging the many responsibilities they already handle effectively. Adeline suggests taking a deep breath and reflecting on personal accomplishments, emphasizing that self-belief is essential for growth. Rather than comparing oneself to others or succumbing to procrastination, she advocates for affirming one's sufficiency and taking action to pursue desired transformations. Drawing from Marisa Peer's "I am enough" movement, Adeline underscores the power of self-affirmation in overcoming feelings of inadequacy. As a coach, she aims to empower mothers to recognize their potential and embrace their worth, believing that each interaction has the potential to catalyze positive change and personal transformation.
021. Co-parenting and the default parent
In this episode, Adeline addresses the common issue of the default parent in co-parenting couples. The default parent is typically the one the child naturally turns to for comfort, affection, and guidance, as well as bearing the majority of childcare and household responsibilities. This imbalance often leads to stress and resentment for the default parent. She emphasizes the importance of open communication in addressing this issue and suggests discussing responsibilities openly and regularly. It's crucial to differentiate between childcare tasks and household chores and ensure both parents share these responsibilities fairly. Adeline advocates for scheduled discussions about family responsibilities and suggests seeking outside support if necessary. Regularly reviewing and adjusting the division of tasks based on each parent's needs and capacities is also important. Ultimately, Adeline underscores the importance of love and communication in co-parenting relationships and encourages couples to work together to find solutions that promote harmony and happiness within the family unit.
020. Sharing is not caring
In this episode, Adeline recounts an incident at the beach involving her daughter and another child regarding sharing toys. She reflects on the common societal expectation that children should always share and examines the concept of "sharing is caring." She questions whether this mantra is appropriate for children, likening it to adults being expected to share personal items constantly. Adeline suggests that teaching children about boundaries and taking turns may be more beneficial than enforcing sharing. She encourages parents to examine their own values and behaviors regarding sharing and to model appropriate behavior for their children. She advocates for respecting children's ownership of their belongings while fostering a culture of mutual respect and exchange. By reframing the conversation around taking turns rather than mandatory sharing, she believes children can learn important lessons about respect, boundaries, and cooperation.
019. Birth story
In this episode, Adeline bravely discusses the often overlooked issue of birth trauma. She emphasizes that birth trauma isn't always about catastrophic events but can stem from feeling unheard, unseen, or disrespected during the birthing process. She challenges the common narrative that having a healthy baby is all that matters, asserting that the psychological impact of birth experiences is equally significant. Sharing her own birth story, Adeline recounts a difficult labor marked by dismissive treatment from healthcare professionals. Despite her struggles, she ultimately underwent a C-section and faced challenges with breastfeeding afterward. She reflects on how she initially suppressed her trauma until later acknowledging and processing it. Through her experience, Adeline highlights the importance of providing support and space for mothers to discuss their birth experiences openly. She underscores the need to validate and address birth trauma promptly rather than allowing it to linger unacknowledged. Ultimately, she advocates for creating a culture where mothers feel empowered to speak about their birth experiences without fear of judgment or dismissal.
018. Are you feeling sick ?
In this episode, Adeline addresses the often overlooked challenges of pregnancy, particularly focusing on the experience of feeling sick during pregnancy. She begins by acknowledging that while some women have flawless pregnancies, it's not the reality for the majority. The host discusses how common feelings of tiredness and discomfort, especially in the first and third trimesters, are often normalized and not openly discussed. Reflecting on her own pregnancies, the host shares candidly about her experiences with nausea, exhaustion, and weight gain. She highlights the lack of support and understanding for pregnant women experiencing sickness, emphasizing the importance of creating space for mothers to voice their struggles without judgment. The host encourages listeners to seek support and understanding during pregnancy, particularly during challenging times like sickness. She advocates for opening up the conversation around the difficulties of pregnancy and providing adequate support for mothers navigating this transformative journey into motherhood. Finally, Adeline recommends her Antenatal Reflections course as a resource for emotional and psychological preparation for motherhood, underscoring the need for more focus on maternal well-being alongside traditional birth preparation.
017. Winters of matrescence
In this episode, Adeline revisits the concept of matrescence, which she previously discussed in episode 14, and focuses specifically on the "winter" phase of this transformative journey into motherhood. While traditionally associated with the postpartum period, tAdeline expands the understanding of matrescence to encompass other significant transitions in a mother's life. She identifies three additional "winters" that mothers may experience: when their child starts school, during their child's adolescence, and when they become empty nesters. Each of these transitions brings about significant changes in the mother's role, identity, and relationship with their child, potentially leading to feelings of uncertainty, loss, and the need for support. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and openly discussing these winter phases, as well as seeking appropriate support to navigate them effectively. She reassures listeners that experiencing these transitions multiple times is normal and encourages them to approach each winter with compassion and self-love, knowing that they can emerge stronger and more confident with the right support and understanding.
016. I need somebody, help !
In this episode, Adeline recounts an encounter with a struggling mother in a coffee shop, prompting reflections on the societal pressures and personal reasons why mothers might refuse help. She acknowledges the myriad potential reasons for declining assistance, ranging from feeling overwhelmed to societal conditioning that portrays asking for help as a sign of weakness. The episode explores the importance of community and support for mothers, highlighting the breakdown of traditional village and tribal structures in Western society. It emphasizes the necessity of forming one's own supportive tribe, whether through physical presence or virtual connections, to alleviate the burdens of motherhood and foster a sense of belonging and assistance. Overall, the episode underscores the significance of seeking and accepting help, both physically and emotionally, in navigating the challenges of motherhood and fostering a supportive community.
015. Shame or superpower ?
In this episode, Adeline delves into the societal taboo surrounding menstruation and encourages women to reclaim their power by openly discussing and embracing their menstrual cycles. She emphasizes that menstruation is not just about bleeding but encompasses a full cycle that affects women physically, emotionally, and mentally. Despite societal shame, she argues that understanding and honoring this cycle can lead to increased energy and productivity throughout the month. Adeline suggests practical steps for acknowledging and respecting one's menstrual cycle. She shares personal strategies to signal the need for space during menstruation. Additionally, she encourages listeners to view their menstrual cycle as a source of power rather than shame, highlighting its potential for personal growth and self-awareness. Finally, she offers resources for further exploration, including a course on menstrual shame by Jane Hardwick Collings, and expresses willingness to support listeners on their journey to integrating their menstrual cycle into their lives with confidence and empowerment.
014. What is Matrescence?
Adeline delves into the concept of matrescence, a term coined to describe the transition from maiden to motherhood. Drawing parallels to the acknowledgment of adolescence in the 50s, she highlights the significance of recognizing this distinct phase in a woman's life. Matrescence encompasses physical, psychological, social, and spiritual changes, and Adeline emphasizes its ongoing nature throughout a mother's life. She introduces the Seasons of Matrescence®, likening it to the cyclical nature of other life phenomena. Adeline describes the seasons—autumn, winter, spring, and summer—as stages in a mother's journey, each with its own challenges and growth opportunities. She encourages listeners to reflect on their own matrescence journey and offers support for those navigating this transformative experience. If you want to explore your own matrescence to become a thriving mother, book a free discovery call with Adeline.
013. The "good child" syndrome
Adeline shares the story of a young mother who, struggling with her own self-esteem issues, sought to overcompensate by constantly praising her child. Through introspection and healing her own childhood wounds, the mother learned the importance of fostering genuine self-esteem in her child. Adeline emphasizes that constant, mindless praise can be detrimental, as it fosters dependency on external validation. Instead, she advocates for mindful praise focused on effort and growth rather than end results. Adeline encourages listeners to reflect on their own relationship with validation and praise, highlighting the importance of nurturing children's internal sense of self-worth.
012. A simple way to feel happy
Adeline recounts a heartwarming Mother's Day experience where her husband's thoughtful gesture inspired her to spread kindness to other mothers. Reflecting on the science of happiness, she shares insights from a psychology class she took on the subject. Adeline discusses how intentional acts of kindness, especially when performed anonymously, can bring immense joy and satisfaction. Drawing from personal experiences, such as baking treats for neighbors during the pandemic, she highlights the positive impact of spreading kindness without expecting anything in return. Adeline encourages listeners to embrace the challenge of performing random acts of kindness, emphasizing the happiness it can bring to both the giver and the recipient.
011. We don't talk enough about the after twos
Adeline delves into the challenges faced by mothers during the years following a child's third birthday, a period often overlooked compared to the "terrible twos." She shares personal experiences and conversations with other mothers to highlight the complexities of parenting during this phase. Adeline explains the developmental changes children undergo between ages 3 and 6, transitioning from unconscious to conscious learning, marked by increased questioning, emotional outbursts like tantrums, and emerging personalities. She emphasizes the need for compassion and patience from parents, recognizing the difficulties posed by societal pressures, stressors, and lack of support. Adeline encourages mothers to prioritize self-care and seek community, acknowledging the importance of discussing post-3-year-old challenges to foster solidarity and support among mothers.
010. What about boundaries?
Adeline shares a personal story from her pre-motherhood journey to illustrate the importance of boundaries and how they influence our lives. She reflects on her struggle to say no and set boundaries, attributing it to societal pressure, fear of disappointing others, and the fear of missing out (FOMO). Adeline emphasizes that setting boundaries is an act of self-respect and discusses its significance in motherhood. She encourages listeners to identify areas where they struggle to set boundaries and emphasizes the importance of boundaries for both parents and children. Adeline believes that by setting boundaries, parents can reclaim their power and teach their children the importance of self-respect and setting boundaries.
009. Needs of the new mom
Adeline discusses the often overlooked needs of new mothers in the postpartum period, emphasizing the societal pressure for them to quickly bounce back to their pre-baby lives. She acknowledges the significant physical and emotional changes mothers undergo during pregnancy and birth, highlighting the importance of allowing them time to heal and adjust to their new role. Adeline criticizes the expectation for mothers to resume normal activities immediately after childbirth and advocates for a more supportive community approach where mothers are cared for and given the opportunity to focus on themselves and their newborns. She suggests writing letters to visitors outlining specific ways they can help. Adeline encourages mothers to assert their needs and preferences during this vulnerable time and emphasizes the importance of respectful mothering and community support.
008. Going through a meltdown
Adeline shares a story about her toddler's meltdown transitioning into a tantrum and reflects on the distinction between the two. She emphasizes that such emotional outbursts are normal for children and often stem from fatigue, overstimulation, and an inability to regulate emotions. Adeline highlights the societal pressure on children to conform and compares the overwhelming nature of childhood to the challenges of parenting. She discusses her approach to managing her child's tantrum. Adeline stresses the importance of acknowledging a child's feelings, maintaining a connection, and providing a safe space for emotional expression. She encourages parents to approach tantrums with compassion, understanding, and the recognition that everyone is doing their best.
007. Why do I lose it with my child?
Adeline shares a conversation with a mother who felt ashamed after losing her temper with her daughter. She emphasizes a judgment-free approach, recognizing that outbursts often stem from a lack of self-control, triggered by past experiences and the current challenges of motherhood. Adeline identifies two common reasons for emotional outbursts: unresolved issues from one's own childhood and a lack of support in the mothering journey. She encourages reflection on past experiences and the importance of seeking support from professionals, friends, or family. Adeline shares her own experience of learning to ask for help and underscores the importance of self-awareness and reaching out for support to navigate the challenges of motherhood.
006. Respectful mothering
Adeline explores the concept of respectful mothering, which she defines as a relationship built on mutual respect between mother and child. She emphasizes the importance of respecting oneself as a mother, which forms the foundation for effectively nurturing and supporting the child. Adeline acknowledges the various parenting approaches and highlights the need for mothers to prioritize their own well-being while caring for their children. She encourages listeners to reflect on their own self-respect and to identify ways to honor themselves amidst the challenges of motherhood. Adeline suggests using this episode as a journaling session to delve into personal values and aspirations, ultimately fostering a culture of respect within oneself and with others, including children. Through respectful mothering, Adeline underscores the evolution of both mother and child, united by mutual respect and understanding.
005. Feeling lucky
Adeline shifts focus to discuss how mothers can cultivate well-being and feel better in their roles. She introduces several quick and efficient tools for enhancing overall happiness. Adeline also highlights the importance of breathwork for nervous system regulation and offers support for exploring this practice further. Additionally, she delves into the power of gratitude and suggests reframing "I have to" statements into "I get to" statements to foster appreciation for daily tasks and challenges. Adeline shares personal examples of how this shift in mindset has positively impacted her mothering journey, encouraging listeners to integrate this practice into their lives for greater fulfillment.
004. Simple Montessori at home
Adeline addresses a common question about implementing Montessori principles at home, emphasizing the importance of aligning parenting values with schooling values for consistency. She cautions against merely purchasing Montessori materials without understanding their purpose, stressing that a home does not need to replicate a classroom environment. Adeline discusses key principles such as connection, respect, and observation, offering practical advice for creating a child-friendly home. She highlights the significance of safety, freedom of movement, and child-friendly furniture in promoting independence and autonomy for children. Adeline encourages listeners to adapt Montessori principles to their own homes, emphasizing love, respect, and connection as foundational elements for family growth. She also offers personalized home environment coaching for those facing space constraints or seeking further guidance.
003. I am not ok
Adeline recounts a poignant experience with her daughter, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and validating children's emotions. Reflecting on the common response "You're okay" in moments of distress, Adeline encourages parents to shift the narrative by acknowledging the child's feelings and offering support. She delves into societal norms surrounding emotional expression, questioning why people struggle to say "I am not okay" and why superficial conversations prevail. Adeline emphasizes the need for genuine communication, where both asking and answering "How are you?" is met with sincerity and space for authentic expression. She prompts listeners to consider their approach to supporting others, particularly new mothers, in navigating their emotions.
002. What is a Montessori mother?
Adeline shares her journey into motherhood, reflecting on her initial expectations versus the reality of becoming a Montessori mother. Growing up in a family where childcare was delegated to others, Adeline initially planned to continue this tradition. However, her perspective shifted during her pregnancy as she delved into Montessori principles, ultimately leading her to embrace a more hands-on approach to parenting. She discusses key Montessori principles such as observing and respecting the child, emphasizing the importance of connection and collaboration.
001Welcome to Understanding Mother Stories podcast
In this first episode, Adeline shares her journey into motherhood and her passion for supporting mothers through her podcast. She reflects on the profound impact motherhood has had on her identity and acknowledges the complexities and challenges mothers face. Adeline discusses the influence of her own upbringing on her parenting style and the importance of understanding and analyzing our own experiences to become the mothers we aspire to be. She emphasizes the need for support and empowerment among mothers, aiming to create a platform where mothers can share their stories, decode their experiences, and uplift each other. Adeline's podcast aims to explore the intricacies of motherhood, provide insights into child development, and foster a community of support and understanding for mothers navigating the journey of parenthood.